A Battle With Inner Barriers

Most of us fail to realize that there are numerous roadblocks or barriers in our life to our personal growth. Whenever we set out to attain an aim or goal, we collide with barriers or obstacles which resist us from reaching to the finishing point. These roadblocks can have an immense effect on our abilities and lead to positive transformations in our lives. 

There are a number of roadblocks in life that we face that prevent us from being successful or reaching our maximum potential. The major obstacles that we all face are of three types, personal roadblocks, social roadblocks, and environmental roadblocks. 

Personal Roadblocks:

The major roadblock most of us face are loosely defined goals. Without setting goals, we can never enhance our personal growth and development. This is the mistake most of us make thinking that we all already know what we exactly want. If we don’t have our goals defined clearly, what are the chances of us actually achieving them? Every one of us has dealt with fear at some point in our life. Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm. It can either make us or break us. There's something once my teacher told me that helps me get through everything, 

Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.

Danger and risks are a part of life, but it is up to us to be brave enough to face them or run away.

Social Roadblocks:

Social roadblocks are related to people around you who are uncooperative, inadequate, and incompetent and are not capable of fulfilling tasks assigned to them. In my life, I have come across or faced such people on every step. Most of the time I was unaware of the fact that these people always pushed me down and prevented me from rising up. A huge conundrum rose in my head on how to change my pessimistic environment. I tried my best to influence them and help them understand their desires and motives. But then I realized you cannot mold someone according to the life you wanted to sculpt. I made a decision and regardless of the fact they were my friends, I eliminated all the negative people who surrounded me. In order to obliterate the surrounding pessimism, I learned to surround myself with positive people and experiences. People who provide encouragement and make me feel good about myself which helps motivate me to do exceptional work. It doesn’t matter to me if I have one or two friends, instead of many. A man is not known by the number of people he is surrounded by, but by the type of people who surround him.

The most influential roadblocks are your personal or internal conflicts. They help you groom and develop your personality. I have learned that a person must be aware of all the obstacles and roadblocks he/she faces to evaluate their self-development. All of us should list out all the difficulties we ever faced and observe how they helped mould us into who we are today. Because every single step in life we take is a new experience,

We must not let anything every break us down or hold us back. Life is all about battles and it is you who makes your own destiny, so we must always remember to keep moving forward. I believe that the core ingredient for a person to excel in life is to believe in himself that he is capable of doing it. If one does not have faith or confidence in themselves, he/she can never accomplish goals that they desire to do so. As Walter D Wintle explained this in his beautiful poem “Thinking”:

If you think you are beaten, you are
If you think you dare not, you don't,
If you like to win, but you think you can't
It is almost certain you won't.

If you think you'll lose, you're lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow's will
It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!

Facebook: A Race To Get A Better Ray Of Spotlight

Have you ever skimmed through your Facebook home page and pondered upon how hopeless your life is? Or how exhausting or unexciting it is? I unquestionably have quite a number of times.

I believe that facebook was created as a platform on the internet to connect, socialize, make friends, share, etc. It was meant to make us feel cherished and welcomed into the lives of our friends and family while we scanned through their timeline. Be that as it may, always viewing my friends sharing pictures and stories about their life journeys, excursions and hang outs to cool spots, made me feel excluded leaving me wondering  what was I doing with my life. That in the long run left me feeling discouraged, envious and separated from the world. Girls tend to share countless selfies looking remarkable making others, such as myself, feeling insecure about themselves.  Bragging about going to expensive restaurants and sharing pictures of food tends to make other individuals feel awful about themselves who can't afford to go to such places.

According to a recent study by German researchers, one in three individuals felt ghastly in the wake of going to the site. Watching companions in their course of events made them feel, to a great degree, terrible about themselves.

The most well-known reason for individuals to feeling discouraged and unstable on facebook was the comparison of likes and comments with their friends. A few individuals post a straightforward status that says "Feeling hungry" and there would be over a hundred likes and comments on it. Even posting something canny and significant does not get me any more likes than only ten or fifteen. Your popularity and worth is characterized by the number of friends in your profile or what number of comments or likes does one's photo gets. That prompts a person feeling useless and substandard compared to those people.

These things have prompted both men and ladies feeling constrained to be the best one on their profiles. This leaves a significant number of us attempting to post physically appealing photographs, statuses and comments that makes us appear to be cooler than others. Every one of us attempts to be someone we’re not in order to be "likeable". Social media has turned into a wellspring of race for us to get a better ray of spotlight than other people.

Due to these circumstances, Facebook has become to be another purpose behind us feeling unstable and pressured. We should all try to remember the primary purpose of social media and not get dragged into this race of getting a bigger number of likes.

Each person is distinctive and delightful in their own particular manner. In spite of the fact that, Facebook has unquestionably assumed a noteworthy part in stressing me out, I have learned that social media does not define who I am. There is a whole other world to life than simply the number of likes and comments on my photographs and statuses. So we all must unwind, associate, share and appreciate our lives in ways we believe are the best.

Will discrimination ever eradicate from the world completely?

Whether it is a workplace, school, college or any social gathering, the vast majority of us have been focused of something known as discrimination.

Discrimination implies making judgment about people in view of generalizations regarding their demographic gathering. It is something that can't be controlled or avoided unless we change the outlook of the general population discriminating towards others. Most of the time, the reasons are absurd to the point that we can't see how to keep away from it. For instance, individuals are discriminated because of their skin colour, religion, ethnicity, gender or even nationality. We all know about the way that discrimination has been an issue since history is still rehearsed globally. For example, the homicide of a great many Jews by the Nazis, slavery of the black in America, and recently the victimization of Muslims.

Living in Jeddah, I experienced that the Saudi’s always felt superior to people from countries like Pakistan, India, and Bangladesh.  They treat them like second rate people. I have witnessed this happening with individuals arriving at the air terminal for Umrah, and getting treated like waste due to the nationality they hold. It is not reasonable for them to judge or discriminate them on the premise of their root.

But mostly, we fail to realize that discrimination is carried out amongst the people of the same race, ethnicity, religion and nationality. Let me elaborate what I meant by that. I visited a neighbour’s house and the way they treated their servants was heartbreaking. They weren't permitted to eat in the same plates as them, or even eat the same sustenance, and surprisingly more terrible, they weren't permitted to sit on the couches or mull over the beds. They were considered to sit on the floor at all times. Isn't that segregation towards poor people and the powerless? Don't these individuals hold the same confidence as us? Don't they hold the same nationality as us? Then why the discrimination? Simply because they're poor?

Regularly, everybody discusses prejudice and discriminations, and debates to an incredible degree, however have we ever looked into ourselves and acknowledged what we're doing? This demonstration of discrimination is practiced all through Pakistan to the level of provinces. A family friend's son, got grabbed and whipped by Sindhi individuals, living in Karachi, simply because he was from Punjab. They discriminate towards Punjabis and vice versa. Everybody discusses how Muslims are being bashed throughout the world; however do we even understand this is going on between ourselves? Similarly, a Pathan is discriminated by individuals dwelling in different areas. Why? Why do we sum up and begin making presumptions about individuals we don't have a clue about personally.

Discrimination is carried in Pakistan to a great extent on the basis of gender. Females are considered as inferior to males in any social society. While my sister was working in an organization, her male colleagues were always given better promotions even though she was capable of working better than them.

To eradicate this act, we need to first be aware of it happening in our own surrounding. I have witnessed several incidents like these which sicken me to the core and usually the reasons for it are extremely absurd. In any case, the significant thing that disheartens me is that it is not created by the environment alone; it exists in the psyche of every individual.

What is life?

Life is a simple structure of an arrangement of dangers and chances that just a couple individuals are willing to take. Life is straightforward and it just means one thing, living. Not everybody encounters the delight of living. It's far beyond what we see regular. It's a set of feelings, contemplation, emotions, interests, wants, wishes, trusts and the rundown continues endlessly to infinity. 

Each stride we take, each word we talk, each breath we take, each slip-up we make is life. That characterizes life. We neglect to understand that we tend to simply get by in this huge unfeeling world. We forget to live. 

Life is an interminable move of achieving the highest point of the mountain. Neither of us spotlight on the reason for the ascension, or the way we climb it. Rather, we indiscriminately simply need to achieve the top regardless of the possibility that we got the opportunity to pound everybody in our way. 

Is that life? Is that living? 

I watch everybody suffocated in this damn race. It disturbs me to the core that individuals need to acknowledge what life truly implies. We have to set ourselves free. Let ourselves fly way. 

We have to adore, live, care, and take risks, value recollections that take our breath away. 

My TOP 10 BOOKS FOR NOV'15

Last month I read numerous books that had me going "Woah" or "Ahh" and I thought I definitely needed to add these to my top 10 list for this month. I'm going to mention the names of the books along with their genres. Each one the following books are are extremely engaging and beautiful. It's impossible that these books don't make you fall in love with them and I would highly recommend anyone to read atleast one of these books. The following are my top ten books for Nov'15 (not in order):

1. The Truth About Forever by Sarah Dessen (Young-adult fiction)

2. Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell (Young-adult fiction, romance)

3. To All The Boys I've Loved Before by Jenny Han (Young-adult, romance)

4. P.S I Still Love You - The sequel for To All The Boys I've Loved Before

5. The Maze Runner Trilogy (Young-adult, Science fiction, Post-apocalyptic) 

6. Confess by Colleen Hoover (Romance)

7. Delirium by Lauren Oliver (Young-adult, Romance, Dystopian)

8. Matched Trilogy by Allie Condie (Young-adult, Science Fiction, Romance, Utopian and dystopian)

9. Can You Keep A Secret by Sophie Kinsella (Comedy, Chick lit)

10. Beastly by Alex Finn (Fantasy)